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Dating Online Can Be Less Stressful
by Martin Smith
Dating is a challenge at any age and for both women and
men. Ladies worry about your hair, your make-up and whether
you look fat. The men worry is their tie straight (if
they wear one), do they have enough money, and whether
or not you will like him. Basically both sexes are worrying
about whether they are liked and accepted.
Believe it or not there are things that you can do to
make your date less stressful. Make your date feel comfortable.
If you are throwing questions at your date, they may feel
like they are on trial. Let the conversation happen naturally
and most of your questions open-ended. This means that
while yes and no questions while used sparingly, are fine,
they can lead to stilted conversation and tension. Talk
about all kinds of topics and try to engage your date
in the conversation. Never force conversation.
Heres one you hear all the time. Relax, be
yourself, youll be fine Share your interests
but listen to your date too. Both of you will probably
be nervous so try to relax. One of the most important
things you can do is be on time either to pick-up your
date or be ready to be picked up.
There are things you should definitely not do on a date.
Dont talk about yourself all night and dont
complain and whine about your ex, your date will wonder
what you will say about them. Dont ask too many
questions-its not the Inquisition. Dont be
late picking up your date or in getting ready. Most importantly,
dont forget to thank your date for a good time.
Dating is about getting to know your date and letting
them get to know you. Try doing something different that
you havent tried up until now. Alternate deciding
where you are going, it could relieve a lot of tension
and you just might learn something very interesting.
One other very important, in fact, it could be most important,
is dating safety. There are so many ways to meet someone
now that its fairly easy for anyone with less than
good intentions to be able to follow through on them.
The suggestions that follow while addressed to ladies,
men pay attention because reality is, is that you too
could be a target.
For the first few dates go to public places and not isolated
ones. If you are meeting someone that you have been talking
to online there are several things you can do to keep
yourself safe aside from meeting in a very public place.
Dont go alone, have a friend or two go to the same
place and sit where they can see you and your table at
You might consider this even if you have met your date
already. The nice guy you met at the library may seem
sweet but he may not be. If you have any kind of uncomfortable
feeling, listen to your gut and do what you have to do
to be safe.
Try to learn about your date. Where does he live? What
kind of work does he do? If he doesnt want to tell
you I wouldnt consider dating him a second time.
He may be very nice and the most loving person but be
careful if he wont share some personal information.
I suppose giving too much information could be a warning
Youve heard of date rape drugs well they can not
only be put in alcoholic beverages but in soda, tea, coffee,
or water. Actually they can go in almost any beverage.
This is one reason to have someone you know nearby so
that if you leave the table they can kind of keep an eye
the table (and your date). Watch how much alcohol you
consume. You want to keep your wits about you at all times
and if you are driving this is even more important.
Use any safety devices that you can (and ones that are
legal). The most important tool anyone can have is a cell
phone, whether man or woman your can break down or be
in a crash. The cell phone will bring help that much quicker.
You should have it programmed so that you only have to
press one number for 911.
Many can be programmed that when you hold down a particular
key 911 is automatically dialed. Most cell phones have
GPS capability. Pepper sprays, high decibel personal alarms
are two more safety tools. Check with your local police
and attorney to see what is acceptable in your community.
Many areas have banned pepper sprays.
Other general safety advice whether dating or not is never
go anywhere unfamiliar alone. Always wear your seatbelt.
If someone grabs you with a weapon and ordered to go with
him or her it is suggested by some that you take a stand
right away. Scream, yell, bite, or kick or do anything
you have to do to become safe.
Go for the groin and the eyes. Shove the heel of your
hand into the assailants nose very hard. Yell Fire!!
People will react to fire rather than help.
This next thing is something to do in almost any situation
not just dating. When giving out personal information
to someone be careful how much you tell them.
I remember when keeping yourself safe wasnt such
a serious matter. There are new ways to overpower someone
and to cover up a crime. Keep yourself safe, and lastly
always let someone know where you are planning to go and
if you can the person that will accompany you.
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About The Author
Martin Smith is a successful freelance writer providing
advice and tips on a variety of subjects if you need tips
on Dating Online His numerous articles provide a wonderfully
researched resource of interesting and relevant information.